How to Easily Change Your Bad Habits
Have you ever noticed how hard it is to get rid of your bad habits? It can be extremely hard, bordering to impossible to get rid of bad habits…
That is because habits actually are deeply rooted emotions, they are rooted in your subconscious mind, and your subconscious mind do not take into consideration what you want, it just does what you feel deep down there. So when you find some kind of habit is hard to break, you now know why.
You also have many habits that are good for you, like if you have a car and some experience, then you don’t need to think consciously about how to start it, when to turn on the signaling for a right turn, and driving in general has become second nature to you… or a habit! Or how about writing a text message, do you remember your first few times writing text messages, remember where the letters were placed on the phone? After a couple of hundreds of text messages, you are writing at an extremely higher speed, because your subconscious mind has habituated the actions needed for texting.
Breaking habits, or turning them into desired habits that support your actions can be very rewarding, and if you have the patience it can be done.
It is simply a matter of communicating with yourself, and teaching your subconscious mind how you want to behave in any given situation. I know this is easier said than done, but the point is, if you keep doing anything you really want, you will get there in the end, that’s a universal fact.
In order to break the habit you are aiming at you need to take a good look at yourself, and find out why you do what it is you are doing. And then imagine how much better it would be if you did whatever you want to replace your habit with, and then use the pain/pleasure motivational behavior patterns to help you change behavior.
Let me clarify that:
If you are a nail biter, you would look at your nails, really study them, and at the same time feel disgust about how ugly they look. And on the other hand you would think about how you would like them to be and, as intensely as possible, dream/imagine/visualize how they would look, feel, and even try to put people commending you for your fine and beautiful nails into the picture. Notice how good it makes you feel, and multiply that feeling as many times as you can, both the good feelings connected to the new behavior, and the bad feelings connected to your bad habit. For almost all people the good feelings will prevail in a foreseeable future, for some it will take longer.
But rest assured, if you work at it regularly, you will end up changing your behavior for the better, and you can do this at anything in your life that you want to change.
The fact is that we all motivate ourselves through pain or pleasure. Anything you want to get away from, or that feels like it would be connected with discomfort to do, you stay away from naturally.
And things that give good feelings, you naturally get attracted towards, and want more of, no matter whether others think positive about it or not, the only thing that matters is your feeling towards or against, that’s motivation in a nutshell.
Keep reinforcing the pain connected to not changing, and keep reinforcing the pleasure of your new behavior, that’s all there is to it.
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Tags: behavior patterns, subconscious mind, nail biter, second nature, pain pleasure, Bad Habits That is because habits actually are deeply rooted emotions, they are rooted in your subconscious mind, and your subconscious mind do not take into consideration what you want, it just does what you feel deep down there. So when you find some kind of habit is hard to break, you now know why.
You also have many habits that are good for you, like if you have a car and some experience, then you don’t need to think consciously about how to start it, when to turn on the signaling for a right turn, and driving in general has become second nature to you… or a habit! Or how about writing a text message, do you remember your first few times writing text messages, remember where the letters were placed on the phone? After a couple of hundreds of text messages, you are writing at an extremely higher speed, because your subconscious mind has habituated the actions needed for texting.
Breaking habits, or turning them into desired habits that support your actions can be very rewarding, and if you have the patience it can be done.
It is simply a matter of communicating with yourself, and teaching your subconscious mind how you want to behave in any given situation. I know this is easier said than done, but the point is, if you keep doing anything you really want, you will get there in the end, that’s a universal fact.
In order to break the habit you are aiming at you need to take a good look at yourself, and find out why you do what it is you are doing. And then imagine how much better it would be if you did whatever you want to replace your habit with, and then use the pain/pleasure motivational behavior patterns to help you change behavior.
Let me clarify that:
If you are a nail biter, you would look at your nails, really study them, and at the same time feel disgust about how ugly they look. And on the other hand you would think about how you would like them to be and, as intensely as possible, dream/imagine/visualize how they would look, feel, and even try to put people commending you for your fine and beautiful nails into the picture. Notice how good it makes you feel, and multiply that feeling as many times as you can, both the good feelings connected to the new behavior, and the bad feelings connected to your bad habit. For almost all people the good feelings will prevail in a foreseeable future, for some it will take longer.
But rest assured, if you work at it regularly, you will end up changing your behavior for the better, and you can do this at anything in your life that you want to change.
The fact is that we all motivate ourselves through pain or pleasure. Anything you want to get away from, or that feels like it would be connected with discomfort to do, you stay away from naturally.
And things that give good feelings, you naturally get attracted towards, and want more of, no matter whether others think positive about it or not, the only thing that matters is your feeling towards or against, that’s motivation in a nutshell.
Keep reinforcing the pain connected to not changing, and keep reinforcing the pleasure of your new behavior, that’s all there is to it.
About the Author:
Janno Lassen is a Danish hypnotherapist who runs several hypnosis, self hypnosis and self improvement related websites along side having private clients.
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